Kink, The Washingtonian, Slut Shaming

Posted June 25, 2012 by Insane Hussein in Miscellaneous / 4 Comments

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There has been quite the stir in the DC kink community recently, involving an article published in the June 2012 edition of the Washingtonian magazine. It all started when Domina Vontana went public with her work as a professional dominatrix in Washington, DC, providing a positive view of BDSM and kink.

The article is well done, and Domina Vontana uses her first name, Shamaine, within the first sentence in the first paragraph, take a look. As she says, she isn’t afraid of her identity and refuses to be ashamed of herself or her work as a professional dominatrix. Some might say she “outed” her clientele in the article by using terms such as “celebrity chef” and lawyers, lobbyists, Jewish men, military personnel and political advisers. First, you can’t ride the metro in DC without rubbing shoulders, sharing armpit space or slinging sweat with any of the people in these categories. Second, you can walk into a Starbucks and watch as the politically powerful negotiate deals to seal your cunts.

However, there have been a few who have spoken against Vontana, stating she is ego hungry, a sad little girl and telling her to shut her mouth. While other “professional” “dominatrixes” have been slinging online-only mud at her, others have decided to step back and shut down their own voices.

I think it’s incredibly whack that a bunch of pissed off old biddies aka the “professional” “dominatrixes” are going off about someone who is truly a professional dominatrix who hasn’t resorted to making bad porn, abusing her clients and destroying their confidences as submissives. She also is not a man hater.

These “professional” “dominatrixes” remind me of the movie title “Ticked-off Trannies with Knives” but only the title. Not the movie’s concept. Therefore, I’d change the title to “Ticked-off Fake Dommes with Chipped Heels” because it’s true. That’s what they are, at the end of the day–lonely, bitter homemade theater hags who only abuse their submissives’ trust in the worst way possible.

This article, which was supposed to be originally published in the February 2012 edition, got pushed back several times before it found a home in the June 2012 edition, making it published during the War on Women. You may have heard of that.

Did I mention it’s also a stand against 50 Shades of Grey, which is a load of shit and showcases BDSM, D/s and kink in a terrible light? It is.

As for being told to shut her mouth–really? Because I distinctly recall that the person who told her that is also one of the founders of the NCSF, which stands for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Isn’t the “F” supposed to stand for “freedom”, or is it just their version of freedom? Methinks the latter. It’s also passive aggressive slut shaming. (The founder got her own interview with a reporter that Vontana had been contacted by. Vontana put the NCSF founder in contact with them in an attempt to smooth waves and show that this reporter was sex positive.)

I’m kinky and the NCSF does not represent me, nor do I want it to. The NCSF is not proactive in the community, only retroactive. They only “stand” for you after you’ve been found black latex-gloved by tight-assed officials. I’d rather donate and be confident in HIPS (Helping Individual Prostitutes Survive) because they actually do good, proactive work for their DC-based community, check them out.)

You may have noticed how I put professional and dominatrixes in quotations. That is because they are neither professional nor are they dominatrixes. Not true ones anyway, just porn ones. Bad homemade theater porn ones who are jealous of true success. Those “professional” “dominatrixes” don’t represent what I do, nor would I send any of my submissives to them, since I’d lose those and my own credibility with potential submissives.

This article should be used by the kink community to raise additional awareness that kink is healthy, BDSM is healthy and that the lifestyle can be fulfilling. Negate the negative publicity 50 Shades has caused, or stay in your sound-proofed closet.

(By the way, yes Vee and I are friends. So what? Slut shaming is slut shaming and these views are my own–for any detractors and sex negative jerks.)

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J is a super-cool female superhero delivering her honest opinions of romance novels, douchenuggetry, sex toys, porn and whatever else she fancies. When not on the blog, she can be found on twitter chatting about whatever random thing occurs to her, might be curled up with a good book, eating chocolate, guzzling--she mean, sipping delicately--wine, watching TV, watching porn or on her back having orgasms. Or a combination thereof. Don't judge, appreciate!

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